The small problems you have right now can grow to ruin your relationships.

Famous psychologist Jordan Petersons shared one of his favourite children's stories called:

“There is no such thing as a Dragon” by Jack Kent

In it, a little boy named Billy Bixbee wakes up to find a small dragon in the house. When he asks his mother about it, she pretends it doesn’t exist. Billy listens to his mother as they both ignore the dragon.

The more they ignore it, the larger the dragon grows. As it fills the house it eats their food and makes it impossible to clean. Soon, it gets big enough to walk away with the house on its back. 

It only shrinks when Billy and his family acknowledge the dragon.

Hopefully, you get the metaphor.

Whether it's a dragon in the house or an elephant in the room, the longer you ignore a problem the bigger it gets. The problem begins to eat away at your life and gets in your way whenever you try to do things. Ignored long enough the problem will take away something important to you.

My favourite part of the story is when the boy's dad comes home after the dragons walk away with the house on his back.

“When Mr. Bixbee came home for lunch the first thing he noticed was that the house was gone.”

Humorous but scary when you think about it. 

Ignore a problem long enough and it can take away everything important to you.

Men have come home to find they’ve become estranged from their children or their wives have left them. This can feel sudden but it isn't. It happens slowly as a problem festers below the surface.

What makes dragons dangerous is they can start so small you don’t think their worth addressing.

But it only gets harder to address them the bigger they get.

Some common small dragons include:

• A hurtful comment that chips away at a relationship.

• The little things someone does that annoy you but you don’t say anything. (like not doing the dishes)

• Getting rejected or rejecting someone which makes things awkward every time you talk. 

You need to address these dragons before they get too big to slay.

How? 

I’ll show you exactly how in tomorrow's newsletter.

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That’s a wrap!

— Justus Bosch

P.S. You can watch Jordan Peterson's breakdown of this story HERE