📢 Stop being a coward you

This was a complete waste of time.

I was walking up to a fancy restaurant to hand in my resume. I had never worked in a restaurant before. This one was way too fancy to hire me. I was terrified they would look at me from their ivory tower, cock a single snobby eyebrow and scarf at me. But I applied anyway.

I was working there the next week.

I was scared of getting rejected but I did it anyway because my fear was based on a lie.

I’m here to argue that if the only reason you don’t take action is because of a fear based on a lie, it’s fundamentally dishonest.

Plus it kills your confidence.

Fear can be honest. 

You have good reason to fear a grizzly bear. Fear stops me from getting eaten trying to hug a bear.

But most of the fears we encounter in our daily lives are unfounded. 

The most common, the fear of rejection, is based on a lie.

It was valid back when rejection meant exile from the tribe and dying in the wilderness. But today, in Western society, rejection has little to no consequence. 

Even if one tribe rejects you, you can find another.

The only reason we don’t act is because we lie to ourselves.

First, we don’t even admit we’re scared of rejection. We come up with excuses for why we shouldn’t even try. I almost didn’t apply to the restaurant because I thought they were “too fancy” to hire me.

Here are some common excuses:

Excuse: "The Timing Isn’t Right."

Reality: There’s never a perfect time

Excuse: "I Need to Be More Prepared."

Reality: Preparation is useful, but over-preparing becomes procrastination.

Excuse: "They Probably Would Have Said No Anyway."

Reality: This is just preemptive rejection, you can’t be sure.

Excuse: "I Don't Want to Make It Awkward."

Reality: Awkwardness is temporary, but regret lasts longer.

Excuse: "I’ll Do It Later."

Reality: Later usually means never.

Excuse: "I Don’t Want to Bother Them."

Reality: If you’re respectful, asking isn’t annoying—it’s an opportunity for connection.

We’re very good at coming up with excuses.

But the truth is we’re just scared.

Humans crave the safety that comes with belonging. Rejection feels like a threat to that safety. But 99% of the time, it's not. You're not going to die if the girl says no. You're not going to die if the business fails. You're not going to die if your application gets denied.

To act like it will is a dishonest action.

This kills your confidence.

You're hiding from the truth, acting like a coward. Being courageous is about feeling the fear and doing it anyway. By acting you prove to yourself you can act when things get scary, boosting your confidence.

If you want to do something and the only reason you're not is because you’re scared of rejection, I believe you have a moral obligation to do it. 

Because otherwise, you’re being dishonest.

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That’s a wrap!

— Justus Bosch

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