📢 The powerful communication skill most people ignore.

Marilyn Monroe lived a double life.

By day, she was Marilyn Monroe, a world-famous actress swarmed by fans everywhere she went. But when she wanted some privacy, she became plain Jane and no one recognized her. She didn’t wear a mask or different clothes to hide her identity. She made an almost invisible change to make herself invisible.

She changed her body language.

Amy Greene, the wife of Marilyn’s photographer, got to see this firsthand.

She and Marilyn were walking around New York City. No one noticed who Marylin was. But as they walked down Broadway she turned to Amy and asked “Do you want to see me become her?”. Amy explains what happened next:

“I don’t know how to explain what she did because it was so very subtle, but she turned something on within herself that was almost like magic. And suddenly cars were slowing, and people were turning their heads and stopping to stare. They were recognizing that this was Marilyn Monroe as if she pulled off a mask or something, even though a second ago nobody noticed her.”

That’s when I realized how powerful body language is.

I began to focus on making my body language more confident.

I changed the way I walked, the way I stood, the way I sat, the way I moved. Suddenly people started changing the way they treated me. People seemed alot more interested in meeting me.

While I was in groups people would turn to me as the leader. People older than me stopped treating me like a kid and more like a peer. And yes, I started getting looks from girls I had never talked to. 

Despite changing nothing about my appearance everyone changed the way to saw me. 

But what does confident body language for men look like?

1. Competent people walk with purpose: Walk with your back straight, arms swaying at your side and your eyes on the horizon.

2. Competent people take up space: Spread your legs shoulder-width apart when you sit and stand. Keep your arms out as you sit, on your armrest of the back of your chair.

3. Competent people move slowly: To look like you're in control you should move like you're in control of your time. You don't need to rush, the world can wait for you. Move like your body is moving through honey.

4. Competent people make eye contact: Look people in the eyes when you talk to them. Make eye contact with the people you pass in the street. Competent people aren't afraid to look around the room and survey their territory.

5. Competent people Speak to be heard: Most guys' voices or too high and not loud enough. Lower your voice until plugging your nose doesn't change it. Speak one level higher than the baseline of your environment.

Implement these one at a time until they become a habit. You'll soon find people start treating you with more respect and admiration.

If you want to make your conversation skills as good as your body language skills join the Charisma Gym where you can practice making your conversation skills with other people.

That’s a wrap!

— Justus Bosch

P.S. What it must be like to be unable to read body language…