📢 Can you relate to this slave trader?

John Newton was a real scumbag.

He was the human equivalent of a cactus at a petting zoo. All around a bad guy. Can you blame me? He was the captain of a slave trading ship.

He made money off the suffering of others.

Newton knew he sucked.

Despite being rich and married, Newton hated himself which turned into a deep depression. Things changed when a life-threatening storm forced him to rethink his life. He left the slave trade and worked to abolish slavery in the UK. 

He became happier when he became a good person.

As he describes in his now world-famous song Amazing Grace.

“I once was lost, but now am found; was blind, but now I see”

John Newton escaped his miserable life once he started acting honestly. He became someone he could respect.

This is the key to self-esteem and with it, a flood of confidence.

Acting against your values kills your self-esteem. 

You hate what you see when you look at yourself. Every time you lie you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough as you are. Every time you mistreat someone you prove to yourself you’re not a kind person.

It kills your self-confidence.

The root of the word confidence literally means trust. How can you trust yourself if you act like an untrustworthy person? That’s why you need to act with integrity, even when no one is looking.

Even if people praise you for what you did, if you know it's wrong it will eat you from the inside.

Dewayne Noel, a modern-day cowboy and philosopher once said.

“I like me, I would buy me a beer”

Your goal should be to become someone you would want to be friends with.

You don’t have to be perfect, in the same way your friends aren’t perfect. But as a person as a whole, are you a net positive to the people around you?

Imagine you were handing out 100$ bills.

Would you fear rejection? Of course not. You’re giving a gift. if people say no, it's their loss. Your goal is to become the human equivalent of a $100 bill. You need to be a net positive in people's lives.

Once you believe you are, you can confidently introduce yourself because you know you’re nice to get to know. You can ask to hang out without feeling like you're taking something because you know it's a win-win.

I’ve invited myself over for dinner at people's houses. I don’t have to feel like I’m a burden like I'm taking something from them because I know I’m a net positive to be around.

Work on yourself to become a net positive everywhere you go.

One of the best ways to be a net positive in people's lives is to become a good conversationalist.

That's why you should join the Charisma Gym. If you're struggling with awkward silences, boring small talk, and conversations that don’t lead anywhere, this is for you. Maybe you’ve tried to learn this stuff from watching videos online. The problem is you don’t learn anything until you put what you learn into practice.

The Charisma Gym is like a gym where you can work out your social skills with real people in a judgement-free environment.

It's Free for the first 100 members, then it will become a paid membership. Join HERE

That’s a wrap!

— Justus Bosch

P.S. If mental health was sold like cocaine… (I couldn’t wait to show this one)